Today was one of those days, just plain empty. Earlier this week, I was told at a "family" meeting at the hospital, where my Dad has been since January that he has Alzheimer's and will not be returning to his home of the past 55 years. A little bit of a shock to actually hear the words, but not a total surprise. To make matter's worse my Mom's dementia is worse than my Dad's. She's now living in their home alone and placement in a facility will also be done for her.
My first reaction to the news was to find them an assisted living apartment so they could be together. Turns out the dementia is to far progressed for either of them to live in assisted living, they will both need to be in a "safe" facility, which simply means "locked". At least they would be taken care of, feed and safe. So the cup is still half full.
In talking to Homecare, who is providing services to my Mom, I was advised that they would start the placement service by putting her on the list for available spaces. Turns out this is not the same system that finds my Dad a place, as he is still under hospital care. I thought that it would be one person, doing both their placements so that they would be in the same facility. Well not so. Seems it isn't a priority for a couple who has been married for over 60 years to remain together. Thus, emptying the cup.
Hopefully tomorrow will be a new day to start with a full cup, make some phone calls and see if I can find someone who will help to keep them together.
